NgoSuku looMama ngo-2026, ndifuna ukubhala ngo-anti wam wesibini.
Akangomntu udumileyo okanye umntu onefuthe, kodwa uchithe ubomi bakhe esibonisa ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumama kunye nokuba amandla omfazi anokuba yintoni.
I. Intombazana Eyaphuma Emalangatyeni Emfazwe
NgoMeyi 1939, umakazi wazalelwa eGanzhou, ngexesha leRiphabliki yaseTshayina.
Yayilixesha lesiphithiphithi. Xa abahlaseli baseJapan bangena eGanzhou, wabanjwa esengumntwana omncinci. Waluma ijoni lotshaba kakhulu waza wakwazi ukubaleka. Ukuze asinde, wathambisa ubuso bakhe ngothuthu lwesitovu, wafihla engcwabeni elingenanto ekhayeni lesalamane sakhe emaphandleni, waza wabamba umphefumlo wakhe njengoko iibheyonethi zotshaba zazikhanya phambi kwamehlo akhe.
Nangona kunjalo, akazange ayeke ukufunda. Wayephumelela kakhulu kwizifundo zakhe, kodwa esikolweni samabanga aphakathi, utata wakhe wasweleka ngequbuliso. Ubomi bakhe bambetha kakhulu, kodwa akazange anikezele.
Ngo-1956, wangeniswa kwiYunivesithi yaseXi'an Jiaotong — intombazana evela eGanzhou eyavula ucango lwekamva ngolwazi.
II. Iminyaka Emine Yekholeji, Uhambo Olunye Kuphela Lokubuyela Ekhaya
Ukuze onge imali, wayegoduka kube kanye kuphela kwiminyaka yakhe emine ekholejini. Elinye ixesha, wayesebenza ixesha elingesosigxina kwithala leencwadi leyunivesithi. Umfundi obhinqileyo ofunda ubunjineli bobushushu wayexhasa kungekuphela nje izifundo zakhe kodwa nothando lwakhe ngosapho lwakhe olukude.
Emva kokugqiba izifundo zakhe, wabelwa ukuba asebenze kwisikhululo sombane.
Ngenye imini, xa wayetyelele isebe lempahla kwiYunivesithi yaseXi'an Jiaotong ukuze abone umhlobo wakhe wasekhaya, waziswa kwindoda eyayiza kuba ngumyeni wakhe - umalume wam wesibini.
Ngelo xesha, umalume wayengumhlohli oselula. Emva kokugqiba izifundo zakhe kwiYunivesithi yaseShanghai Jiao Tong, wafundisa kwiNorthwestern Institute of Technology (eyayisakuba yiNorthwestern Polytechnical University). Utata kamalume wayengumbhali-mbali odumileyo efundisa kwiYunivesithi yaseNorthwest.
Xa umakazi wam wadibana naye okokuqala, wayengathethi ngothando. Endaweni yoko, wayenyanisekile:
"Ndingumntwana wesibini kusapho lwam. Kufuneka ndinakekele abantakwethu abancinci. Uninzi lomvuzo wam uza kuya kubondla."
Umalume wam waphendula wathi: “Andiyi kuthatha imali yakho.”
Wagcina eso sithembiso ubomi bakhe bonke.
Njengabafundi abaphumelele kakhulu eTshayina yasekuqaleni, bobabini bathatha inxaxheba kumsebenzi omkhulu wokwakha isizwe kweli lizwe. Kwaba ngo-1992 apho babuya kunye ukuze bafundise kwiYunivesithi yaseJiangsu…
III. Iintombi Ezintathu, Imithombo Emithathu Yokuzingca
Ngo-1963, umakazi watshata eneminyaka engama-24 ubudala.
Emva komtshato, wazala iintombi ezintathu — abazala bam abathathu.
Yena nomalume abazange badlale amakhadi okanye babandakanyeke kwiincoko ezingenamsebenzi. Lonke ixesha labo lokuphumla balichitha benceda abantwana babo ukuba bafunde kwaye bakhule.
Namhlanje:
Oyena mdala kunye nomyeni wakhe baqhuba inkampani eLAX, bephumelela kwimisebenzi yabo.
Owesibini usebenza kwiBhanki yaseTshayina waza wakhulisa intombi yakhe ukuze ibe yiPhD kwisayensi yekhompyutha.
Owesithathu uhlala kwaye usebenza eMunich, kunye nosapho olonwabileyo.
Iintombi ezintathu, ubomi obuthathu obahlukeneyo, nganye ikhanya ngendlela yayo.
Kwaye umakazi uya kuhlala engumthombo wokukhanya oko.
IV. Kwiminyaka engama-87, Uthatha iKlasi yeBridge
NgoMeyi 2025, umakazi wam wabuyela eTshayina ukuze ahlale phantsi. Oko kwandinika ithuba lokuchitha ixesha naye, ndithethe naye, ndikhumbule izinto ezidlulileyo - kwaye ndifunde lukhulu kuye.
Kwiminyaka engama-87 ubudala, uthi:
Uzolile kwaye uzolile– ukrelekrele engqondweni kwaye uphilile emzimbeni.
Ukukhuthala– ukufunda yonke imihla, ukulandela iindaba, ukugcina idayari.
Ingqondo evulekile– ubhalisele iklasi ye-bridge kutshanje.
Ukuthemba– ukholelwa ekubeni abantwana bakhe bayakwazi ukuzikhulela bodwa.
Andikwazanga ukuzibamba ndimbuza: “Anti, yintoni imfihlo yakho yomtshato owonwabileyo? Ndicinga ukuba lolona khuselo lukhulu onokulunika abantwana bakho.”
"Qondanani kwaye ninyamezelane. Qondani ukuba wonke umntu unamandla kwaye ubuthathaka, kwaye nikhathalele omnye nomnye ngokusuka entliziyweni. Xa kuvela iingxabano, yima kancinci, lungisani iimvakalelo zenu, nize nithethe kwakhona."
Akukho filosofi ibalaseleyo — bubulumko nje obucacileyo.
Uhlala endixelela athi: “Ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngonyana wakho, Tian Tian. Ndithembe ukuba uza kukhula kakuhle.”
Ngaloo mzuzu, ndabamonela abazala bam — ngokuba nomama onobulumko, ofundileyo, nozolileyo ngendlela emangalisayo.
Kwaye ndinombulelo kuba, emva kokuba ebuyele ekhaya, ndikwazile ukufunda lukhulu kuye.
V. Amandla Omfazi
Ibali lika-anti alilobali lamabali angcangcazelisayo. Libali lokuqina nobulali — umfazi oqhelekileyo ohamba ngexesha elingaqhelekanga.
Apha eJOFUNG, nakuthi, kukho oomama abaninzi abaselula nabazakuba ngoomama kungekudala.
Amaxesha atshintshile, kodwa ezinye izinto azitshintshi —
Ukuzinikela ekuphakamiseni nasekukhapheni abantwana.
Isibindi esiza nokuba ngumama.
Ukubona ixesha elide kukamama onothando.
Intliziyo eceba nzulu ngabantwana bayo.
Koomama abaqhelekileyo kodwa abakhulu besizukulwana esidala, sisenokufumana amandla alula nahlala ixesha elide: ukuba singabi ngumama ogqibeleleyo, kodwa sibe ngumama ohlala ezama ukuya phambili, ongayekiyo, kwaye ohlala ekholelwa kubantwana bakhe.
Ndibhala oku ukuze ndihloniphe umakazi wam wesibini — kunye nabo bonke oomama abakhanya ngokuthula ngemihla yabo eqhelekileyo.
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Ixesha leposi: Meyi-18-2026